What is a Useless Talent?

Welcome to the Romance blog hop.

The question this week is do you share or hide a useless talent? I think any talent that you don’t use to your advantage for something is useless. So no. I try to always use my talents to my advantage.

What I think I’m saying is that I don’t have a useless talent as I use them sometimes just to make myself happy.

Keep it happy peeps!


Is it collecting or hoarding?

Welcome to the Romance Writers blog hop.

Is it collecting or hoarding? Well is it? Is there a distinction? I think every person who meticulously throws things away and live in a minimalist fashion would say that large collections are indeed hoarding no matter the order and structure used to categorize the collection.

Those that are in the middle would say there are degrees. I mean really just because I’ve kept it for ten years doesn’t mean anything compared to the fact that I finally used it and saved myself ten dollars.

This is important ya’ll.

PS Don’t look around my husbands barn or his fathers or his brothers, they will use that junk one day. (One man’s junk and all that.)

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What happens in March on a farm in Western Oklahoma you ask?

Well well well, let me say it’s my anniversary so that is the biggest thing…hahahaha I kid. Although 18 years is nothing to scoff at. everybody really does celebrate my anniversary can you guess what day it is?

The cattle come off the wheat pasture and get sold to pay for our taxes. It takes a decent amount of cattle. That’s a hard check to write and we never get a refund. I’m not complaining, just stating plan old facts. Most people don’t understand what the refund means, you are getting back the amount you over paid to the government and they feel they didn’t need. Its like a really bad savings account in my estimation. They don’t even pay you interest for using your money. But I digress. We pay exactly what we owe.

What else? The Schoolhouse opens up on Airbnb again. And many honey do’s are completed in this month. Not sure what those are this year

Stress eating…no way. (sneaks off to make bread)

Welcome to the Romance blog hop.

Don’t we all stress eat or not eat when we are stressed? For me I love carbs. but since I’m going on vacation really soon, I have not been able to indulge. I LOVE the smell of baking bread. Do you know what I love more than that?

That’s right a piece of still warm fresh bread with the butter melting into the surface…nom nom nom. Now I’m hungry for something I can’t have. I blame the Marketing for Romance Writer’s.


Last week I made a blog post about Farming in February <— thank you spell check, I never get that one right.

What does rest on a farm look like? For Oklahoma it means taking cattle hay everyday. Checking on cattle everyday. Checking the progress of wheat or rolling in a tractor laying down fertilizer. Sometimes he cuts wood (then makes me and the girls pick it up. ) Usually this lets him clear areas for fence its a twofer.

Does the farmer take days off. Rarely. When we were dating he and his family would take every Sunday off, but its been so long since that happened. He does something everyday. Sometimes its barn work, sometimes its honey do’s, or father do’s (see fertilizer above).

Sometimes a fellow farmer friend says I’m going to Mexico in xyz months and the farmer says make that happen. So when I’m typing this we were packing and preparing for vacation with out the kids. As you read this we have just gotten back. Nobody needs to know when we are gone. lol

Paranoia comes with farming in the country and meth head neighbors.

Music to write by?

This weeks Romance blog hop is on writing to music. Do I write to any specific music? The answer drum roll please…. yes and no. I a lot of times have a certain genre in mind that will play through my head the entire time I am writing a story. That music may or may not be in the background. There may not even be music. It could be a documentary or Tv.

But what is in my head playing on loop will drive the story.

Farming in February

What’s it like to farm in Oklahoma in the winter?

I know several farmers not much further north than me who have snow on the ground all winter and bring their animals into a barn for the cold.

We do not have to do that. At the moment my farmer is streaming on fertilizer for himself and his father. Soon he will need to lay down herbicide on the crops they do that with.

The winter wheat is finally growing after a really dry fall where it didn’t grow. The cattle are out on that as pasture. The fields are beginning to green up. The cattle are getting fat on the sugar in a growing pasture. They sometimes even get a hay treat. And we get to rest.

Happy reading!


Can you benefit from giving someone advice? Does anyone ever take advice and use it constructively?

Obviously people ask for advice all the time, but do they take it and use it or discard it? If I ask for advice I only ask those whom I trust and will weigh it into my decision to be made. But I’ve learned over many years to do it that way.

I rarely take unsolicited advice and weigh it into my decision making. I will however take heed of a professional who throws wisdom out. I never enter into a conversation where I am not prepared to have my opinion changed by a knowledgeable person.

But can I learn from giving advice to someone else? I can learn who will ask for advice but will do the opposite. I can learn not to waist my breath. I can learn who is just asking because they are being polite. I can learn what body language is sincere interest and which is waiting for an opportunity to talk. I can learn the body language of those who have an open and seeking mind.

I guess we can learn something even if someone doesn’t take our advice.

The Innocents by CA Asbrey

I enjoyed “The Innocents” so much!. The spirit of the Wild West rides again. I thought it was a very well researched and character driven story. A female Pinkerton sets out to bring in train robbers. Fast paced and magnificent. Not a dull moment. You should follow the link and get your own copy!


Pinkerton Detective Abigail MacKay is a master of disguises—and of new crime-solving technology! But she’ll have to move fast to stay a step ahead of Nat Quinn and Jake Conroy.

Nat and Jake are the ringleaders of The Innocents, a western gang that specializes in holding up trains carrying payrolls—and Nat is pretty savvy when it comes to using the new sciences of 1868 in committing his crimes.

Charismatic Nat and handsome Jake are on the run, and they’ve always gotten away before—before Abi. But when Abi is caught by another band of outlaws during the chase, there’s no other choice for Nat and Jake but to save her life. Abi owes them, and she agrees to help them bring in the murderer of a family friend.

The web of criminal activity grows more entangled with each passing day, but Nat, Jake, and Abi are united in their efforts to find the murderer. Once that happens, all bets are off, and Abi will be turning Nat and Jake over to the law. But can she do it? She finds herself falling for Nat, but is that growing attraction real? Or is he just using her to learn more about the Pinkertons’ methods? Abi always gets her man—but she may have met her match in her “best enemies”—THE INNOCENTS.

The Innocents CAAsbrey final cover

All the deets:

Blog – C.A Asbrey – all things obscure and strange in the Victorian period http://caasbrey.com/

The Innocents Mystery Series Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/937572179738970/ 

Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/mysteryscrivener/

Amazon – https://www.amazon.com/author/caasbrey

Twitter – https://twitter.com/CAASBREY

Link to latest book https://amzn.to/2IWGLC6

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